Showing posts with label Music. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Music. Show all posts

Thursday, 3 September 2015

Chrissie Hynde's Comments Speak of a Society Still Embedded in RapeCulture - But Also Raise an Important Point

Many people - myself included - have been outraged recently by Chrissie Hynde's statements that rape is sometimes the victim's fault. The lead singer of The Pretenders remarked to the Sunday Times that the sexual assault that she experienced many years ago was "all my own doing", sparking backlash on social media from activists and victims alike.

However, it is a good idea, in this particular case, to take Hynde's comments with a pinch of salt, and to consider the mindset that they came from. Hynde's views on rape may well be what she considers to be a logical interpretation of her own experiences, which she has then applied to all similar situations, in order to be able to make sense of them. Clearly she has spent several years blaming herself for what happened to her, and coming to the conclusion that, if the assault was not the fault of the perpetrators, then something about her own actions or conduct must have triggered it: namely, the fact that she had been taking drugs. As a result, she may then have gone on to speculate that other victims of assault had invited these crimes upon themselves by making themselves 'vulnerable' through drinking alcohol, or wearing provocative clothing. After all, if the men who assaulted her were not to blame for their actions, why should it be any different for other attackers? And, so, the views which Hynde expressed in her interview may have become the only possible explanation.

But this, in turn, begs the question: what about the other people who feel this way? People who have never experienced these things, but still firmly believe that victims provoke attack by drinking heavily, wearing revealing clothing, or simply by not actively dissenting (screaming, fighting back, etc.)? In my opinion, this is simply a version of the same thought processes expressed by Hynde; many people refuse to believe that their are people in the world who are evil enough to commit crimes without a true motive. They don't want to know that there are people who will kill others without a thought, kidnap children from under their parents' noses, or rape somebody simply because they can, or because they want to feel as though they have power. Such mindsets are inherently inhuman, such people cannot possibly exist. And so excuses are invented - 'she was so drunk she didn't know what she was doing; she asked for it', 'he chose to go back with them, he must have known what was going to happen', 'they didn't fight back, so they must have wanted it, really'. These excuses make the perpeatrators seem less unfathomable in the eyes of the public: people can accept criminals as long as they are somehow able to justify their behavior - 'he just lost control, he didn't really know what he was doing'. If people can learn to recognise this harmful mindset, incidences of victim blaming can be dramatically reduced, giving victims more confidence to seek justice against their attackers, and resulting in more successful prosections of perpetrators.

Rape and sexual assault are never the fault of the victim. UK legislation clearly defines these offences as one person engaging in sexual activity with another, without the other person's consent. There is no mention of any exception based on what the victim was wearing, or how they were behaving at the time of the attack. In fact, there are no exceptions at all. They are simply crimes, and they are crimes for which the perpetrators must be punished.

P.S. All this being said, I don't advocate heavy drinking, or taking recreational drugs. Abuse of these substances has been shown to cause a number of deaths due to slips, falls, drowning and road traffic accidents, and a large percentage of sexual assaults take place when the perpetrators themselves have been drinking. Plus, I'm a musician, and I hate to think of the damage that stuff could do to my vocal cords! 

Also, I still like The Pretenders' music, even though I don't agree with Chrissie Hynde's comments.


Chrissie Hynde. Photograph: Brian Rasic/REX/Brian Rasic/REX

Wednesday, 14 May 2014

Mental Health Awareness Week 2014 | Anxiety

As you probably already know, this week is Mental Health Awareness Week (although I'll admit that I didn't have any idea that this even existed until people started tweeting about it on Monday), and the focus for this year is on anxiety. And since I've already shared my own experiences of living with anxiety (part of my series of posts during OCD Awareness Week last October), I thought that I'd share some of my coping strategies and tips instead. These may not work for everyone, but these are the things that I've found to be the most helpful in my recovery so far:

Strategy no. 1: Read.

Some people hate reading, but for me it's a chance to escape from reality for a while, while also learning new things and developing my own writing skills (an opinion that I know is shared by my cousin!). It's always a good way to relax, and if necessary can give you an excuse to escape from some social situations (for example, going to your school's library at break times instead of the canteen). Books that I've enjoyed recently include: Handle With Care by Jodi Picoult*, My Secret Sister by Helen Edwards*, Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi* and The Way I See It by Melissa Sue Anderson.

* Possible triggers.

Strategy no. 2: Art and Crafts.

I've never been very good at drawing or painting, but I recently took up crochet, which I have found very enjoyable so far (although I only actually started it to see if it was as hard as a couple of girls made it look on TV - it wasn't). It's a fun way to relieve stress and be creative, and you can make a lot of fun and wacky things that you wouldn't be able to find in shops, such as this cat hat, which I found on WikiHow the other day.

Strategy no. 3: Puzzles.

Puzzles are a good way of occupying your full attention, which can be great for helping anxious thoughts to subside. I particularly like logic puzzles, but there are plenty of different types to choose from.

Strategy no. 4: Hobbies.

By far the best way I've found of relieving anxiety (and helping to keep it under control) is to find something that you love and stick at it. For me, this would be music. And you don't just have to have it as a thing on the side like most people do, I went a bit crazy with mine! I now play five different instruments (although I'm only really any good at one or two of them) and am in two different orchestras, so if you find something that you really enjoy, you can totally go to town with it. Have fun!

I hope that my little summary will be helpful to some people, but even if it's not, thanks for reading!

Saturday, 19 October 2013

OCD Awareness Week Day 5 - OCD and The Media

The media coverage for this year's OCD Awareness Week has been great (links to most of the best bits can be found via OCD-UK's website or twitter page), and the BBC documentary Extreme OCD Camp, which aired earlier this year, was absolutely amazing, but there have been some examples of OCD related media coverage that have not been so beneficial.

An obvious example of this is Channel 4's extremely damaging series Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners, which involves sending people who in most cases probably don't even know what OCD stands for into messy houses to clean them up. Not only is this a drastic misrepresentation of OCD, it is encouraging people to laugh at it and to believe that it really is just about people who enjoy being in a tidy environment.

Luckily, there are other people out there who agree with me, such as Claire Watkinson, who made this fantastic video response to the show:



As she mentioned, Claire is currently making her own film about OCD (you can find out more using the links at the end of the video), which I hope will contribute to the positive side of OCD awareness and help show people what OCD really is, as opposed to what horrendous shows like Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners tell you it is.

Of course, the media isn't all about what goes on in TV, so before I move on to my next post, I thought I'd share an awesome song that I found, which is Everything is Alright by Motion City Soundtrack:


I don't own either of the videos in this post, so no copyright infringement intended and all that.




Saturday, 28 September 2013

Janet Devlin

I went to see Janet Devlin's tour gig in Camden on Wednesday and it was amazing!! The support acts were awesome, Janet herself was even more awesome and I got to meet her afterwards!!! It was an amazing end to a not so great day, and I also took loads of photos (although a lot of them didn't turn out so well because of the lighting):
Tom Dibb.

Wayward Daughter.

Janet Devlin!



Janet and Newton Faulkner.

A bald guy's head got in the way of my shot.

Highlight of the day!!!